out cry!

this is really important for me... and for you too, depending on how you look at it,
hi all
hope ya'all okay, couldnt come by all your blogs but this is the issue... am doing an article 'one night stands' for a magazine that looks at women 'soul to soul sorta closure, '
now all i need is some real people that have had a real experience 'one night stand thing' how they felt after, why they did it and so on... generally a whole narration, they don't have to put actual names, they could be pseudo full names but must put their age and occupation and send it to my email at leeeceee@yahoo.com.
know anyone? or you? i would be most grateful...thanks...plse pass it on, my deadline is 2Morrow midnight...

thank you

has it happened to you?

the day i said i love you,
i knew that i had lied
because, as stealthily as it crawled in...
it packed its bags and walked out my mouth...

my take on it

its cooling down now... the weather has been...unbearably hot... at least now
oh! phew!

okay, what i really want to write about is something I've been musing on for a while...
friendship...
I think relating with people is a hard thing... and when we relate without boundaries we hurt one another, so
why do we do it over and over...relate without boundaries...
things like respect, love, honesty loyalty, sensitivity, consideration, kindness...

sometimes i learn my lessons afresh with different people but there are things i find totally a turn off for a friendship to last..
i am still learning and learning not to forget what i learn...

i find that we cross the boundaries too much too often with our pals.. and take each other for granted...
i got this pal that when i am stuck, i mean broke, i call her up, tell her am strapped and need a loan...not i need money... not unless she wants to give it to me... but even then, i insist it is a loan, name the date it will be given to her and make sure i keep my part of the bargain...if i don't have it on the mentioned day, i call her in time to let her know...
that for me, has kept us friends, she knows she can trust me..

boundaries...do we ever set em? anyway? sometimes pals do things i find totally a no-no.
simply coz you are my friend doesn't mean you can borrow my clothes when you like, use my credit card when you feel like or make me do errands for you coz...'we are friends. aren't we?"

its a hard paper... am still learning not to do what i hate done to me to someone else and...it works...
it makes me realise that the command, 'love your neighbour as you love yourself ' was not a b the way, God knew what he was saying...
"and do unto others what you would have them do to you"

think about it...what would you like done for you? a birthday party? a phone call, some space, a little loving when you are down, some empathy...some sound rebuke...well then... do unto others what you would like them to do to you
its the law of consideration


and am still learning...


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